Thank you for visiting our web site, and for inquiring about God's plan for the home. 

The Bible is the only reliable source of information about the home. While I do not venerate the King James Version, every study must have an authority and I trust the KJV to be that authority.

God set the pattern for the home after the order of the Godhead.

    God the Father is always the planner.

    God the Son is always the doer of the will of the Father.

    God the Holy Spirit always empowers the work to be done.

Consider: 1 Cor. 11:1-3 "Be ye followers of me, even as I also am of Christ. 2Now I praise you, brethren, that ye remember me in all things, and keep the ordinances, as I delivered them to you. 3But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.Keep in mind God the Father is still the planner. He directs the home through His Word.

The head of the husband is Christ.  The husband is not a law unto himself.  He must answer to Christ for his family.  The husband has the role of Christ in the home.  The husband is to be the doer, the provider for the home, under the leadership of Christ and His Word.  The head of the wife is the husband. The wife has the role of the Holy Spirit.   She is to be the one that empowers the husband, backing him up through prayer and encouragement, for him to be the man God wants him to be.   A godly wife is essential for a man to be a good husband and father of his children.

How seriously does God take the keeping of these responsibilities of the husband and wife?  Consider: Ephes. 5:1- 2, 20-32  "Be ye therefore followers of God, as dear children; 2And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweetsmelling savour. . . . .Vs. 20 Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ; 21Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. 22Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. 25Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 28So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 30For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. 31For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. 32This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church."'

Husbands if you have missed the point, I pray not.  We are our wives security blanket accountable for presenting our wives before the Lord without shame.   As long as the wife stays under the authority of her husband she can do no wrong in the eyes of God, except that of rejecting Christ.   God holds all husbands accountable for the wrong doing of their wives.   

Wives do you get the point, I pray you do.   If you leave the authority of your husband you will stand before the Lord accountable for all your wrong doing, instead of your husband having to carry the blame. 

How should we respond to such responsibilities, let's look at them again.?

First of all, we should be grateful God has put order in the home, and that order is to be motivated by our love for God and each other.   It is to be a patriarchal theocracy in the bond of love, just as it is in the trinity. [Vs 1-3, 20]  There is no power struggle going on in heaven, can you imagine what it would be like if there was bickering and competition for who would be in command?  Heaven would be turned into a war zone, as some homes are today.  Notice that both husband and wife must stand before Christ in answer for assuming their God given roles in the home. [Vs. 21]

Wives are to submit to the leadership of their husbands, for it is the will of God.  Keep in mind God is holding husbands accountable for their well-being, as well as being the spiritual leader in the home.  They are to teach their wives the principles of God's Word, so that she is able to apply in her life and in the home, that both can stand before God unashamed.  Therefore, the husband following the will of God, becomes the security blanket of the wife. [Vs. 22-24]

Husbands have an awesome responsibility before God.  They are to be the under-shepherd of their home, as Christ is the Good Shepherd of the Church.

Notice it is by carrying out their God given responsibilities husbands demonstrate their love for their wives, as well as Christ.   For a man that loves his wife will help her be the wife and mother God wants her to be.  The husband is accountable for his wife to be able to stand before the Lord without shame.  Therefore, any wrong doing of the wife becomes the failure and fault of the husband.  Husbands better be obedient unto the Word of God, to carry out their God given responsibilities to their wives and children, if they want to stand before God unashamed. [Vs. 25-32]

Consider the exhortation of the Apostle Paul gave to Timothy so that he could stand before God unashamed of his life and ministry: Consider: 2 Tim. 3:15-17 "And that from a child thou hast known the holy scriptures, which are able to make thee wise unto salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus. 16All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: 17That the man of God may be perfect, throughly furnished unto all good works.  Consider: Chapter 4:1-5 "I charge thee therefore before God, and the Lord Jesus Christ, who shall judge the quick and the dead at his appearing and his kingdom; 2Preach the word; be instant in season, out of season; reprove, rebuke, exhort with all longsuffering and doctrine. 3For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; 4And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables. 5But watch thou in all things, endure afflictions, do the work of an evangelist, make full proof of thy ministry."

The Scriptures are God's love letters to His family, to bring them into the place of His blessing, and that they can stand before Him unashamed. The Bible is the husbands only instruction manual for carrying out his responsibilities to his wife and children.  Notice, the importance of children learning the Scriptures and accepting Christ as their Saviour at an early age. [3:15]  This is not only so for their security in the Lord, but also for their not getting out from GOD'S place of blessing. [3:16-17   Notice:The first thing the Word of God must do is to show us where we have gotten off course, before it can correct us it must bring reproof. After that it corrects us, it gives us instruction so that we can live in the will of God, which is a Christ like life.

In as much as this was told to Timothy, that he make full proof of his ministry as a pastor, is it relevant to husbands and wives today?   The principle is the same, for the husband ministry is that of the under-shepherd of his family, just as the pastor is to the church.  Furthermore, notice the conditions facing Timothy then are no different than those facing a godly man today. "3For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; 4And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables. 5But watch thou in all things, endure afflictions, do the work of an evangelist, make full proof of thy ministry." (2 Tim. 4:3-5)

President Theodore Roosevelt once said: "A thorough knowledge of the Bible is worth more than a college education"  He said that because a college can teach a career, but only the Bible can teach one how to live a life in the will of God.  Husbands, the devil is after our families.  There are many false prophets out there that peddle a religious life style that satisfies the flesh, that some of those in your family may prefer to live.  It is up to you to protect them from such. God will hold us responsible for doing so, if we draw back out of fear of the conflict we have failed our responsibilities to God and our families

Of course all of this is fruitless academics IF we do not trust it, and apply it to our lives.   If parents do not demonstrate God's Word is vital in their life, neither will their children.   Parents if your home has not been in God's pattern, Pray asking God's forgiveness and commit yourself to being what He would have you to be that your family would be in His place of blessing.   

Both Husband and Wife have a very special and specific need today, that has been neglected by many.  To which I received a E-mail so I am inserting it hear.

March 2013 Questions and Answers How sex is to be used.

Here is a E-Mail I received Feb. 21 to think about... It informs us of a good reason to protect our children from the modern dating mentality...

Singles Survey Reveals Casual Views on Sex. A new survey done for is shedding some light on what singles are saying about their sexual behavior, CBN News reports. According to the survey, 42 percent would not date a virgin, 47 percent report having a "friends with benefits" relationship, and 44 percent of women and 63 percent of men have had one-night stands. Almost a third say they've had sex by the third date and almost half said they had sex by the sixth date.

At the same time, the Centers for Disease Control released two new studies Wednesday showing that the United States faces an ongoing and severe epidemic of sexually transmitted diseases. More than 19 million new infections are reported every year, up from 15 million in 1996, and half of the new cases affect people ages 15 to 24 .

Consider Genesis 3:21-22  Unto Adam also and to his wife did the Lord God make coats of skins, and clothed them. 22And the Lord God said, Behold, the man is become as one of us, to know good and evil: and now, lest he put forth his hand, and take also of the tree of life, and eat, and live for ever:

What does God say about sex, and how it is to be used?

God blesses sex for both companionship and procreation, I believe the clearest and best explanation is expressed in the Holman Bible Dictionary, as follows (Gen. 1:28; 2:18-25). Fertility of women was a blessing while barrenness was a curse (Gen. 29:30-30:24; 1Sam,1:5-20 

Basically, the Bible sees sex as good because God created it. The sinful nature of man appears to have corrupted Godís good gift. The sinful nature of man appears to show up outside the first garden, a negative attitude toward nudity appears (Gen. 3:7, 21; Luke 8:27,35). "Uncovering oneís nakedness" refers to a shameful, incestual, or otherwise forbidden sex act have corrupted Godís good gift. Godís people are expected to exercise self-control, not by asceticism (Col. 2:23; 1 Tim. 4:1-5), but by the power of the Holy Spirit overcoming sexual impulses (Gal. 5:16-25).

For the noncelibate, marriage is the only approved outlet for sexual expression (1 Cor. 7:9; Titus 2:5-6).  This view equates human wholeness with holiness of life (1 Thess. 4:3-5). Oneís sexuality is a vital part of Christian holiness and not a necessary evil to be rejected. Within the limits of marriage, sex is for procreation of children, the enhancement of the one-flesh relationship, and the pleasure of the married couple whose love can be nourished thereby. Outside of the limits established by God, sex becomes an evil and destructive force in human life, calling for Godís redemptive power to deliver humans trapped therein. Marital sexual love is both a gift and a responsibility from God to be consecrated by the Word and prayer." Holman Bible Dictionary

This explanation makes sense of the fact sex is not an escape from lifes troubles or a toy or to be used for entertainment. It is an awesome responsibility, but a beautiful one if used properly. Think about it! What is it for you?

Now go do what is right in the eyes of the Lord and may your decisions bring you the promise Romans 8:28 " And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose." Your friend in Christ Warren T. Smith

I strongly suggest you gather your family together go over this material together, and confess any failure for not having been what God would have had you to be.   Do not make excuses, or it will be of no avail.   Rather just accept you did wrong and ask forgiveness, and help in your being the parents God would have you to be.  Then your home will be a bit of heaven, and not a war zone. Where they find true love, security, and direction for their lives. You will never be sorry for doing so. 

Keep in mind God is not looking for perfection ( that is found only in His Son Jesus Christ) But He is looking for a willing vessel Jesus can live in to accomplish His will in, and through us to others.  That, by the way, is the only way one can prove their faith, to the Lord and others by seeing Him live in us.

The material in this condensed outline has been compiled from our Bible course "The Family of God Bible Outlines" On Biblical Christianity. All scripture references are from the KJV of the Bible.  

Thank you for taking the time to read and consider what is said here. If it has been a help to you, I would appreciate your E-mailing me your comments and any questions you may have, or if I may be of more help to you in reaching your potential in Christ our Lord.

Now go do what is right in the eyes of the Lord and may your decisions bring you the promise Romans 8:28  "And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose."  
Your friend in Christ Warren T. Smith


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